**Proudly Authentic, Always Real: A Journey Into Brave Spaces, Business, and Belonging**
_"There was a time I truly believed there wasn’t life on the other side of coming out.”_
If you had told me years ago that the platform I now stand on—winning awards, nurturing a community of bold business owners, and being unapologetically myself—would all be built on the very authenticity I once tried to hide, I would have struggled to believe it. Yet, every story I share and every person I empower has become both my revolution and my reward. Owning exactly who you are is, in my experience, the single greatest lever for personal and professional change you’ll ever pull.
**Context: Why This Conversation Matters**
For those of us who have spent years suppressing their true selves—whether to fit inside corporate boxes, family expectations, or a society that prefers conformity over candour—the idea of “authenticity” is not mere rhetoric. It’s oxygen. Authenticity set me free, and the ripple effect has transformed every client, every follower, every community member I’ve touched.
But embracing authenticity isn’t simply a personal milestone; it’s a powerful act of leadership. When others see what becomes possible once you break through fear, they start to imagine a future less defined by old constraints. This matters—whether you’re at the start of your career, leading a company, or simply longing to make your small business visible and beloved in a noisy world.
Recently, I had the opportunity to articulate these insights (and much more) in a conversation with Joanne Lockwood, host of [Inclusion Bites](https://seechangehappen.co.uk/inclusion-bites-listen), where we dug beneath surface-level platitudes about inclusion and belonging. This wasn’t a polished PR piece. As always, I spoke the difficult truths and shared the stories that matter most.
**Podcast + Host Overview**
Inclusion Bites—helmed by Joanne Lockwood of SEE Change Happen—is not your clichéd “diversity and inclusion” interview. Joanne is a renowned speaker, consultant, and trailblazer who lives her values of inclusion every day, both in business and personal life. Her sharp, lived experience and relentless pursuit to create spaces where “everyone not only belongs, but thrives” means guests know this isn’t the place for half-hearted answers. Vulnerability is required.
More than [INSERT_VIEW_COUNT] people have already watched our interview on YouTube, with many more tuning in via Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
If this conversation sparks something for you—be it tough questions, fresh energy, friction, or joy—I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. I read every one.
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### Foundations of Authentic Bravery
Real authenticity rarely begins with confidence. It’s often born out of necessity—a moment when you must decide whether to keep shrinking or take that terrifying first step towards your own truth. For me, and for so many in the LGBTQ+ community, the fear was not abstract: would speaking my truth mean losing my family, my safety, my future?
I remember, vividly, those claustrophobic years of self-doubt before coming out. No education, no visible role models I could point to and say, “She’s like me, and she’s thriving.” For a long time, my life felt on hold, as if I was outside peering in.
During our conversation, Joanne—herself a trans woman who’s navigated these waters—reflected on the chasm we imagine sits between “who I am” and “who I show the world.” She nailed it: “When you step off that supposed cliff edge, you realise it’s only an inch high. The people who love you, love you. The rest simply drift away.”
My own journey accelerated during the Covid years, a period that forced stark self-evaluation. When you’re confronted with mortality, you ask very different questions. My epiphany: if my time was up, what would I regret? My answer was immediate—I’d regret never having truly lived.
Since then, authenticity isn’t just a value; it’s been the cornerstone of a community and business that now empowers others to claim their brave spaces. Last night, standing on stage as an out, proud lesbian, I collected an “Entrepreneur of the Year” award—not for blending in, but for teaching authenticity-as-advantage. Old fears have melted away, replaced by conviction: authenticity is my best business asset. And it’s yours, too.
### The Business of Belonging: From Lurker to Leader
Leaving corporate life for entrepreneurship—or simply stepping out from behind the veil on LinkedIn—demands its own coming out story. So many people ask, “What can I possibly say that matters? Who am I to post, to lead, to disrupt?” Joanne and I joked that LinkedIn is filled with lurkers, yet the very act of publicly owning your expertise, your story, your opinion—especially as someone who once had to hide—releases extraordinary power.
I’ve seen it dozens of times in my community. The first post is an act of vulnerability. The hundredth can be an act of leadership. My mission now is creating brave spaces where others can experience that journey safely and with support.
For small businesses especially, the opportunity is colossal. While the marketing world promises you need huge budgets to be visible, LinkedIn flips the script. Out of over a billion users, only a sliver are actively posting. If you show up with integrity and value—not corporate-speak, but real stories and useful insights—you magnetise the right people to your business.
Joanne and I both agreed: if you’re not polarising a little, you’re probably not standing for anything meaningful. “You’ve got to be Marmite,” as she put it. Half will love you, half might not, but what matters is you’re seen for what you actually stand for.
The advice I give my community: post as you would speak to your closest peers. Drop the mask. Don’t wait for perfection. If you can speak it in a networking room, you can post it online. Build momentum, not just visibility.
### Practical Authenticity: Walking the Line Without Losing Yourself
Of course, authenticity can be misused. Some hear “be yourself” and interpret it as licence to offload every raw emotion or controversial opinion. There’s a necessary counterbalance: you still need to be socially conscious and respectful—don’t confuse authenticity with abrasiveness.
As I tell my community, if you wouldn’t say it in the office, don’t say it online. Most of the power comes from just speaking plainly, with humanity. Use your natural voice, not generic corporate jargon. The world doesn’t need 10,000 more “Exciting Announcement Alert” posts. People crave genuine engagement.
A story from my own practice: one client confessed that she’d been crafting ultra-corporate posts online, but when people met her face-to-face, she was nothing like her LinkedIn persona. Once she dropped the act and communicated honestly, her engagement—and opportunities—skyrocketed.
Joanne and I align on the same cadence: mix the authoritative and the personal. Don’t be afraid to occasionally drop a “truth bomb” about a tough day or a surprise insight. The right balance humanises you, while still establishing expertise. Stories about daily triumphs, challenges, and lessons resonate more than any sales pitch ever could.
### Visibility Is Not Vanity—It’s Survival
The biggest hurdle most small businesses face isn’t a lack of skill or product quality. It’s invisibility. You can be the best at what you do, but if nobody knows you exist, your business will wither. The notion that “if you build it, they will come” is, in today’s crowded market, a fantasy.
In Portsmouth alone, 900 small businesses fold each year—not for lack of talent, but often because nobody sees them. That’s why I engineered my community to be ruthlessly focused on visibility: combining networking, education, and relentless encouragement to ‘show up’. Our internal data proved it—between six and eight posts is often what it takes for someone to generate real leads. Eight moments of genuine connection, not high-pressure sales tactics, builds trust that converts.
Some worry about boasting or oversharing. I counter that by teaching the PIE model (Product, Impact, Exposure): you can have the greatest product, but if you’re not exposed, no one will ever benefit from it. My own mantra? “Give away your best stuff for free.” Generosity is not just good karma; it’s an unbeatable marketing strategy.
This approach pays dividends. Just look at one of my community members, Bev, who transformed her “boring HR” expertise into over a million impressions on LinkedIn—by simply talking about her work as a human, not a faceless “professional.”
### The Power and Pitfalls of Building Community
Scaling any community that is truly inclusive is more complex than it first appears. On one hand, the door must be open to different backgrounds, ideas, and needs—otherwise, you’re only replicating the same old silos from which you’re trying to escape. But openness must be balanced with safety. The wrong person—someone with a hidden agenda, or who brings a toxic attitude—can quickly erode what should be a brave space.
Here, Joanne and I dig deep: how do you curate a community that is fundamentally inclusive, yet fiercely protective of psychological safety? It’s not enough to avoid explicit discrimination; you have to build invisible guardrails that foster healthy, candid dialogue without allowing harmful behaviour.
Sustaining that environment means more than vetting members; it’s about constant vigilance, lived leadership, and clear standards. Everyone is someone else’s weirdo—the challenge is creating a space where difference isn’t merely tolerated, but valued, while always protecting against weaponised opinions or divisiveness.
We also touched upon the reality that scaling visibility and influence comes with risks of its own. When a personal brand grows, it can unintentionally create distance between leader and audience. I make a point of blending my online presence with real-world interactions, ensuring my community never feels I’m on some unreachable pedestal. Staying grounded, approachable, and human is how trust is kept alive.
### Inclusion Across Generations: Why Age Still Matters
A key part of my approach to inclusion is broadening perspectives—ensuring we see value in people regardless of age, stage, or life circumstance. Joanne and I shared stories of women in their thirties, forties, and beyond, stepping into entrepreneurship after years of corporate toil. Often, it’s these individuals—with a wealth of lived experience but little formal platform—who create the deepest community and value.
Ageism, particularly as our workforce ages and traditional career paths fall away, is a frontier we can’t ignore. The real test of an inclusive business network is whether it welcomes the “classic workforce”—those who are re-entering work post-family, adapting to new tech, or finding meaning and flexibility in later life. Inclusion, for me, isn’t just about race, gender, or sexuality: it’s the capacity to meet every person where they are, and to challenge our own biases.
### Caring for Yourself in the Midst of Impact
Building a business and a community has always been about impact for me, but I would be lying if I said it didn’t carry personal cost. Burnout is a constant threat for those of us whose work is an extension of our values. I’ve learned—sometimes the hard way—that time for reflection, genuine rest, and experiences outside work aren’t indulgences. They’re the foundation that enables sustained leadership. My priorities for the coming months: more holidays with my partner, more adventures, more living—because this work is about freedom, not just success.
### Closing Reflection: Fear Is the Liar, Authenticity the Truth
If there’s a single thread running through my career, community, and personal journey, it’s this: most of the things we fear in our quest to be seen and heard have no real power once faced. Authenticity, applied with care and intention, is the one asset no competitor can replicate. It’s the engine for business, the foundation of trust, and the core of every brave space.
As I stood on stage last night, holding that award, I wasn’t just proud of what I’ve achieved; I was proud to have lived into what scared me most—being seen as I truly am. There is life on the other side of fear. There’s wild success, too. And, most importantly, there’s real belonging.
If you're standing, hesitating at the edge—of coming out, of sharing your work, of stepping into leadership—know this: the only way out is through, and the rewards are bigger, richer, and bolder than you ever imagined.
And if any of this sparks something for you, or challenges your own story, share it below. These conversations don’t end on a podcast or a stage—they begin there, and they continue with you.