Who wants to win a T shirt right here. I saw you first. Your first name is Melissa. Melissa, would you be willing to come up and help us right here on stage? Oh, Melissa's already going. All right, everybody give Melissa a huge, huge round of applause. Melissa, we're gonna bring you right over here. Everybody go, hey, Melissa. Melissa, you are representing everybody when it comes to dating and intimacy.

All right, Melissa. Yeah, no pressure at all. You're gonna notice I use the word partner. Cause I don't assume anybody in this room's identity situation or wiring. We want everybody to be part of today's discussion. Melissa, two people are on a date, and it's going great. It's going so good. One of them wants to kiss the other.

Yes. How do they know when it's the right time to make their move? We got a microphone so everybody can hear you nice and loud here, Melissa. So how do you know it's that moment? Oh, maybe somebody might ask. They might ask. Okay, now, before they ask, Melissa, do you think they're trying to read each other's body language? Oh, yes, they're definitely trying to read their body lines. Okay, very cool. Have you ever noticed in movies how they give each other that look? I have. Oh, you know, that look.

All right, very good. So, Melissa, once somebody gets the look, do you think that most people. Do you think they stop and say, can I kiss you? Or do you think they go for it? Now what do you do? What do you think most people do? I think most people gauge the other person's body language and maybe kind of lean in a little bit. Maybe move a little closer. All right, we need to speed up that situation just a hair. Yes, yes, yes. Very good. So once they do all that, do you think they're stopping and asking? No.

Okay. You think they're going for it? Most people probably are going for it. All right, let's see what the room thinks. Room. You're going to answer now, do you think most people ask for us to go for it? Now, I'm going to give you the chance to yell. When I count to three. You are not answering what you do. You're answering what you think most people do.

Here we go. Count of three. Either yell. Ask first or go for it. One, two, three. Three. Go for it. You clearly know what you're talking about.

Yes. Yeah, and here's the cool part. Almost everybody in the world yells the exact same answer. And you might have noticed that it went like this. It was your chance to answer and passionately answer. And I'M going to ask you to do that throughout today's program. And you might be thinking, Mike, why do we have to keep doing that throughout the program? Well, we're going to discuss some really fun topics today, and we're going to discuss some really serious topics, like sexual assault. And with this many people in a room, some of us have already been impacted by this crime, either directly or indirectly.

And if we're not responding as a room, when we're able to, it looks like we're not supporting our family. If that makes sense. Just say, makes sense. Makes sense. Awesome. And you clearly know what you're talking about when it comes to the look. So here, what we're going to do. I'm going to take the microphone, if that's okay, and Melissa, you're going to imagine those back doors, your partner standing in front of them.

And I'm going to count to three, and when I count to three, you're going to share with everybody here this afternoon your version of that look. All right, here we go, Melissa. Now, give Melissa a little love. Give a little bit. Come on. Give Melissa love. So are you ready? Okay, very good. That's why we ask.

I'm going to count to three, and you're going to give the look to that imaginary person by the door that you so eloquently described earlier. The look. You're good. Yes. There you go. Okay, Melissa's ready. All right, let's count to three for Melissa. Here we go.

Good job. Give it up. Give it up. Awesome job. Which shirt do you want, Melissa? I'll grab it for you. Which shirt do you want? That one. That one says. It says, can I kiss you? On the back it says, do you ask? Take a moment to care.

Give it up. Melissa did a great, great job right there. Now, some of you might be thinking, well, Mike, you just did that to have a little fun with us to start the show. Well, that's not the only reason. So I've been doing this for 30 years. I've never seen the same look given twice. I've never seen that version of the look ever before in my life. And if that's true, that means everybody in this room has a completely different look.

And if everybody in this room has a completely different look, that means body language cannot be reliable. And if it's not reliable, that means it's dangerous. Some of you go, mike, how could it be dangerous? Well, let's imagine that's not two chairs up here. That's two. Let's say it's A couch with two people on it. And the one thinks, like many of us in this room before we walked in here today, I can read body language. And they think they know what that person wants, so they do what they make their sexual advance. Except that person didn't want it.

By the way. Can this happen? Yes or no? Yes. See, the problem with body language, it relies on two things. Assumption and arrogance. The assumption that I know what you want me to do to you. The arrogance that I have the right to do it without confirmation. I don't think anybody in this room wants to be treated based on assumption or arrogance. And I don't think anybody in this room wants to treat others based on assumption or arrogance.