You know, I've heard a lot of experts say that fear isn't real that is such a bunch of baloney Fear is so real In fact, there are probably things that you're afraid of doing right now in your life, in your relationships, at work. And the fact that you're afraid that's robbing you of all of the experiences that you wanna have in your life. I mean, if you're afraid to fly that's gonna limit your ability to travel and see the world or go visit friends. If you're afraid of public speaking that's gonna really limit your ability to express yourself and share your ideas. If you're afraid of talking to your boss or asking for a raise that directly impacts how much money you make. Or what if you are dreaming of starting a business or you've already started a new business but you're afraid to talk to people and you're afraid to share your business with people. I mean, fear is something that stops us all and that's why I'm here to talk to you because it doesn't have to. Fear is real but I'm gonna share a secret weapon that I have used for years to beat every single fear that used to stop me.

Now, first before we get into the secret weapon I just wanna cover a few facts about fear, what it is, what it isn't and some things that you may not know about fear. So first thing, fear is a physical state in your body that is exactly the same as excitement. Let me say that again, fear and excitement are the exact same physical state. Your heart races, you might sweat a little bit, you might feel tightening in your chest, you might feel a pit in your stomach, you have a surge of cortisol. It's basically the way that your body goes into a hyper aware state because it's readying for action. Now, what's the difference between fear and excitement? Really simple. The only difference between fear and excitement is what your brain is doing as your body is all agitated. If you're excited your brain's going oh, wow, this is gonna be so cool to ride this roller coaster.

If you're afraid your brain's going, no way, there's no way I'm doing that, this is dangerous, get out of there, don't do that. It's saying something different. So what's critical about understanding this is that we're gonna use the fact that your mind is either working for you for excitement or against you with fear to your advantage and I'll tell you about it in just a minute how you're gonna do that. Second thing I want you to understand is that you may have heard the advice feel the fear and do it anyway. You may have heard the advice oh, just try to calm down, think positive thoughts. It doesn't work, does it? And there's a reason why it doesn't work so let's go back to fact number 1. When you're afraid your body's in a state of arousal and agitation and your heart is racing and you're all like amped up and you're hyper aware of what's going on and you're freaking out a little bit, What is it like when you're calm?

You just kinda chill, right? You got like this low arousal state.

Very very difficult to go from a state of agitation of being all jacked up and excited and weirded out to a a kind of state. It doesn't work it's like trying to stop a train by throwing a boulder on the tracks It's gonna make the train jump off the tracks. It's gonna cause a disaster. In fact, they've proven in research that when you try to ignore your fears it actually makes them worse. They've also proven in research that positive thinking alone also can make your fears work worse. So, what do you do? What do you do when you're about to go talk to your boss and you feel afraid? What do you do when you have to get on a plane and you're actually terrified of flying? What do you do if you gotta give a presentation and you are afraid of public speaking? Here's what you're gonna do, you're gonna use strategy the same one that I use that has helped me beat every single fear and turned me into somebody that is terrific when it comes to a high stress situation. This is how you do it. You're gonna use my 5 second rule in combination with what I call an anchor thought and that is going to reframe what your mind is doing so that your mind goes from feeling agitation and making you afraid to reframing it from agitation to excitement.